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Yes, Singles, You Can Ignore Valentine’s Day

You don’t have to buy crap or spoil yourself just because couples feel pressured to show their love

I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. Like a lot of other people, I’d rather feel loved, be told that I am loved and be shown it many more times a year than just one, V-Day.

V-Day makes women feel bad

But, let’s look what happens to those who don’t have romantic partners on V-Day; they (and let’s be honest who “they” are — women) are told how to survive it (like it’s a disease?), which often means they (aka women) are told to do something nice for themselves, which means they should buy into the consumerism aspect of the “holiday” (and what holiday nowadays isn’t about consumption?), have a party, binge-watch TV and booze up so that Valentine’s Day is less about romantic love but a celebration of all sorts of love.

‘Should’ sucks

Speaking of which, I really would love to get rid of the shoulds of the world because no “should” has ever made any of us feel good and authentic. It just makes us feel guilty and diminished, and thus we act on something we don’t necessarily want to do. Instead of speaking our truth.

What man feels like he should be kind to himself on V-Day?

And, again, the only ones who seem to have this kind of thinking shoved down their throats are women. What man feels like he should be kind to himself on V-Day? What does that say about what society thinks about women? What does that say about what we women think about ourselves? Can we gals do better? I actually believe we can.

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Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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