Women, It’s Time to Own Your Sexuality
Just think of how much bad sex you can avoid
Can we talk about sex? Of course we can, but most of us don’t. Oh, we may boast to friends about the great sex we’ve had (and hopefully we have) or make jokes with then about the crappy sex we’ve had (we’ve all been there), but talking about sex — what we think about it, what it means to us, why we have or don’t have it — is, well, complicated.
I didn’t realize just how complicated until I read Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Alexandra H. Solomon, a psychologist and professor at Northwestern University and author of Loving Bravely. If you’re a woman, or someone who loves a woman or someone who is raising a woman-to-be, you will want to read this book, coming out Feb. 2. Trust me.
Here’s why.
Imagine you are about to have sex for the first time with someone you’re really into and seems to be into you, too. What could be more wonderful and exciting? As you head to bed (assuming that’s where you’re going at it) though, there’s going to be a lot more going on between the sheets than just the two of you. In fact, each of you will be bringing everything you’ve ever been taught — or more likely not taught — about sex, from religion to your parents to sex ed to porn, etc., as well as…
