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Women, It’s Time to Own Your Sexuality

Just think of how much bad sex you can avoid

Knowing Your Sexy

“All our choices, including our sexual choices, are guided by love or fear. Sexual experiences that are guided by fear sound like this: I will be rejected or abandoned if we don’t have sex. Something is wrong with me/us if we don’t have sex. I can’t have sex otherwise people will think I’m a slut. Sexual experiences that are fueled by love sound simply like this: yes.”

Yes, you deserve pleasure

“Women are taught to be sexually appealing but not demanding, to be sexually available but not too hungry, to bring our partners to orgasm but to fake our own pleasure for their benefit and protection. Many of us cannot name our sexual anatomy or describe what those parts long for.”

“Embrace the fact that you are entitled to sexual experiences that enhance you. Experiences that leave you feeling more alive, more connected (to yourself and to your partner), more curious.”

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Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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