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Twitch and Ninja Are Reinforcing Monogamy

Mega-star Ninja is allowing the Twitch community to privilege a heteronormative monogamous romantic relationship over all others. There’s a problem with that

You’re a popular gamer who has millions of fans on your Twitch channel, where people watch you play video games, in this case, “Fortnite Battle Royale,” and you make a crapload of money doing that, but there are some people you just won’t play with — women.

“Twitch thots,” harassment, warding off obsessive or judgmental viewers are all serious concerns for well-known female streamers. In contrast to the reality of being a woman on Twitch, Blevins’ choice to draw a line feels like a conservative gesture — even a familiar, divisive one.

Yes, his choice does. In fact, it sounds a lot like how Vice President Mike Pence, an evangelical Christian, avoids the hint of impropriety by not dining with women or attending parties that serve booze unless his wife is with him. He’s not alone: even author Ta-Nehisi Coates admits he’s “a dude who believes in guard-rails.”

While I understand some people have implied my views mean I have something against playing with women, I want to make clear the issue I’m addressing is online harassment, and my attempt to minimize it from our life.”

So here we are in 2018, having male millennials — Ninja is 27 — basically stating that the only way they can avoid taunts and teasing online (I get it; online harassment can be brutal) about anything potentially misconstrued as romantic is to remove any hint of it from their day-to-day life.

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Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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