There is only way to avoid this -- a marital plan that holds each of you accountable.

As I wrote (https://medium.com/@OMGchronicles/dear-men-heres-why-your-wife-will-probably-divorce-you-988bdfc16fc4):

No more asking. No more nagging. No more telling. No more frustrations or resentments. Just discussion, agreement, compromise and holding each other accountable.

And men, yes, you do need to be held accountable. You need to be fully aware of the day-to-day minutiae in your home and with your kids, and you can’t assume that your wife will take care of that for you. It’s not your wife’s job to ask you or tell you (unless that’s your spoken — not assumed — agreement). If you don’t understand that, then please don’t get upset when your wife serves you with divorce papers one day. Because she probably will.

And you'll be doing all the stuff you didn't do in the marriage on your own anyway.