The ‘Secret’ To A Happy Marriage All Same-Sex Couples Know

And how different-sex couples can learn from them

It’s 2020 — guys, it’s time for you to do your share of the domestic duties.

It shouldn’t have to be said — again — but yet here we are. In the same week that marriage historian Stephanie Coontz noted how hetero marriages could learn a lot from same-sex couples when it comes to equality, came yet again another article on the ongoing struggle (for women) to equal the load.

Coontz references new studies that indicate that women married to men, aka hetero marriages, have the highest levels of psychological distress. Gay spouses had the lowest while lesbian spouses and men married to women were somewhere in between.

Why?

Guess.

Because women are still doing the bulk of the domestic duties.

Ask me why women are much more likely to leave their husbands.

As Coontz notes, “For most heterosexuals, marriage continues to increase the gender stereotyping of duties.”

Same-sex couples are able to escape that because when you have two wives or two husbands, who does what cannot be an assumption based — wrongly and frustratingly for hetero women — on gendered roles.