Thanks for your reply. Reasons for divorce aren’t always easy to pin down. My former husband cheated, and while that set the wheels in motion that isn’t the” reason I filed. When there’s no money, abuse, addiction, affair, etc., and people grow apart it’s more for ongoing frustrations that, yes, probably were not communicated well (maybe even never mentioned). I don’t think lack of household support will actually be “the” reason a wife decides to split, but you can throw it in the pile along with the other stuff. According to AARP (, the Top Marriage Killers

For women:
physical or emotional abuse
drug or alcohol abuse

For men:
fell out of love
had different values or lifestyles

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