Thanks for reading and writing. You say "wouldn’t people be in happy relationships if they found someone who’d share the workload of doing dishes, laundry and childcare, had a sharp mind and was of sound character over abs, large penis and triceps?" From research for my book, here's what makes a satisfying relationship— matched expectations, whatever those are for the couple. And actually, there are studies about how women relate to penises. Most women view four things to enjoy sex: gender equality, partner-specific learning, commitment and "technically competent genital stimulation." None of which have anything to do with penis size.

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