Thanks, David.

I appreciate your kind words.

In truth, “high-status” women — whatever that means — are often not going to be attracted to “low-status” men, just as “low-status” men often aren’t attracted to “low-status” women.

Why don’t we hear of “low-status” women demanding access to men, resorting to terror and violence when they don’t get their way? Even many “high-status” women who had hoped to have found a partner to have children often find themselves on their own in their 40s(I’m thinking of Melanie Nokin, who wrote Otherhood: Modern Women Finding A New Kind of Happiness; where is sympathy for them? There isn’t any; instead they are seen, as Nokin notes, as as picky or career-obsessed).

No one “deserves” a romantic partner. Some people get one, some get several, some get none. And no one should be judged for their romantic choices, either. Polyamory won’t solve anything for incels, but society as it is now isn’t either. They’ll have to become the kind of men women actually want to be with.

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