Thank you for this. As I wrote in the Washington Post: “For thousands of years, mothers have relied on others to help them raise their children. Cooperative child-rearing, or alloparenting — related and unrelated members of the species helping to care for and provide sustenance for the children of others — not only enabled mothers and children to thrive, but also shaped human evolution. What if we took alloparenting to the next level to address today’s nontraditional families and created policies that established a community-based “village” of quality, trained, ongoing caregivers? Why shouldn’t caregiving be a communal obligation and not just left in the hands of families, no matter their form? Not only would it help parents by giving them support beyond even the most generous family leave policy, but it also would provide children with a variety of mentors, and parents — even non-biological ones — with caretakers as they age.”

I call this modern-day alloparenting carenting. I would love to see the collective caregiving movement grow. It’s time.

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