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Michelle Obama’s ‘Divorced Dad’ Comment Speaks to Stereotypes About Divorce

Former First Lady Michelle Obama caught some flack recently when she compared what our country’s going through under Trump to living with “ divorced dad.

“We come from a broken family. We are a teenager where, you know, we’re a little unsettled, you know, and having good parents, you know, is tough. Sometimes you spend weekends with divorced dad often that feels like it’s fun, but then you get sick. That’s what America is going through. We’re kind of living with divorced dad, right?”

And so conservatives and divorced dads alike got miffed, and as much as I admire the former first lady, rightfully so.

Addressing stereotypes

While divorced moms have some pretty obnoxious stereotypes, dads have more — in part because there aren’t as many studies about divorced dads as there are about divorced moms, who traditionally have had sole or the bulk of the custody. We don’t really know how they’re doing.

Making it better

Clearly, the discussion shouldn’t be about who has it harder, but about how can we make it be better so not only divorced moms and dads can thrive, but their kids can, too.

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Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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