"Isn't it women that used to make marriage such a big deal to begin with? " Actually, women HAD to marry to survive and they were property of their husband (see coverture laws). And, as I have written before, many "sexless" are because the husbands often withdraw from sex when they experience impotence as many men do) https://medium.com/crows-feet/how-men-experience-their-sexuality-as-they-age-9c6e3e5a79b4