If you didn’t read “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough,” how can you make a clear-eyed, non-judgmental, honest assessment of its message?

Many people who didn’t read the book — *ahem* — do not understand or misunderstand the author’s use of the word “settle.” As if settling were a bad thing. One of the definitions of settle is “resolve or reach an agreement” — and there’s nothing wrong and many things right with finding someone with whom you can “resolve or reach an agreement” when it comes to a romantic partnership.

And should you ever write a book, you, too, will eventually have used books available for a penny — that doesn’t mean what you had to say was worth that.

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Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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