I wouldn’t say love is cheap and fast nowadays; in my parents’ day, they married after a few weeks, too … but that’s because women really had to marry back then. Now no one “needs” to marry nowadays, and women are financially independent.

It’s dangerous to promote young marriages — or marriage at any age for that matter — because women who marry young tend to have higher divorce rates, and they lose out on a lot of money — about $18,152.

That may not matter to a Miley (worth a reported $160 million) or a Justin (worth some $265 million) or an Ariana (worth about $45 million) or a Cardi B (poor girl; she’s *only* worth $4 mil), but it may matter to someone like, well, you — it certainly would matter to someone like me. There are real consequences for marrying young.

That said, none of them will be devastated financially if they do divorce at some point. Because at its heart, marriage is a financial contract that comes with some 1,100 government-bestowed perks and protections. Same-sex couples understood that, which is why they fought so hard for the right to wed. Heteros are clueless about marriage — they just think it’s about love. Oh well, let’s see how that goes…

Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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