I think you are confused about what love means in a long-term marriage. No one thinks it's like the honeymoon stage—that's unsustainable and most people know that. That said, you have to keep reinventing what that love looks like; if you just go through the motions, well, you'll be divorced soon enough.

I suggest you read this: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/04/magazine/therapy-marriage-couples-counseling.html?unlocked_article_code=1.uU4.9Y-g.nXWWbwM4crzJ&smid=url-share