I Don’t Care if Men Want to Date Younger Women (and You Shouldn’t Either)

50-year-old French writer Yann Moix says women his age are ‘invisible’ to him, and that’s OK

Vicki Larson
4 min readJan 8, 2019

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Yann Moix is a film director, television presenter and an award-winning writer. He’s French. He’s sorta kinda maybe attractive. He’s a 50-year-old single man. But now he may best be known by a comment he made to Maire Claire magazine. Women his age are “invisible” to him.

“Come on now, let’s not exaggerate! That’s not possible … too, too old. I prefer younger women’s bodies, that’s all. Full stop. The body of a 25-year-old woman is extraordinary. The body of a woman of 50 is not extraordinary at all.”

He also prefers relationships with Asian women — Koreans, Chinese, Japanese especially — and, you know, there are all sorts of problems with that, especially when it’s explained as, “I can’t help but like what I like” or, as Moix states, “It’s perhaps sad and reductive for the women I go out with but the Asian type is sufficiently rich, large and infinite for me not to be ashamed.”

This did not go well over social media.

Still, as much as I find his comments naive, ageist and sexist, he’s entitled to have them. “We’re not responsible for our tastes and our inclinations. … I like who I like and I don’t have to answer to a taste tribunal,” he says.

And you know what — he’s right.

Well sorta.

We actually are responsible for “our tastes and our inclinations,” as men who try to have sex with children or collect child porn know all too well. But, he readily admits his tastes and inclinations trip him up. “I’m a prisoner of myself. Every time I fall into the same patterns. I’m a sentimental failure who always makes the same mistakes.”

I think that was basically someone’s (not Einstein’s) definition of insanity.

Still, doesn’t Moix have a right to decide for himself what he’s attracted to? I sure want to be able to decide for myself whom I’ll share my body and time with — without judgment. I am attracted to good-looking, fit, witty, tallish, age-appropriate men and I make no apologies for that. Would anyone judge me for not being…

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Vicki Larson

Award-winning journalist, author of “Not Too Old For That" & "LATitude: How to Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work (2024) coauthor of “The New I Do,”