Hi Nigel. Thanks for commenting. I would not want to perpetuate unhelpful, sexist stereotypes. All the research (done by people much smarter than I) indicates that men are not doing their share (although they are doing more) and that male and female Harvard MBAs at graduation said they each expected to have an equal partnership but, years later, it was discovered that the men put their career first over their wife’s and the women ending up much more child care than they expected to.

I can offer you much more proof but I think you get the point. Obviously, not all men are that way, but enough do to make women unhappy with the situation. One day I hope to report differently.

You sound like you and your wife have a happy arrangement. Have you asked her if she’s always been happy, and if she’s happy now, with the division of household labor?

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