Hi Allen,
I am not sure where you are getting your information from, that "Men know to be respected we need to create wealth." and "a woman is taught sharing money with a poorer man is an insult to her. " I was never taught that, thankfully. What outdated, heteronormative views. And sexist to boot.
" if a woman has a big paycheck that means she has to spend a lot of time devoted to working" as opposed to ... watching the kids, cooking the meals, cleaning the house, attending to "her" man???
You also seem to equate lingerie with femininity. Hmm.
All the research indicates that cooperation is how humans evolved, not manipulation. (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0960982219303343)