Actually, I quote French Gates, Gates, Vance, a researcher and a man sharing his own experience of therapy—none is hearsay or observation, although, true, Oppenheimer's story is his experience—not necessarily universal.

I made time to present a researched article—perhaps before responding with anecdotal experiences as "proof" that men do "X" and women do "Y" and the chuckles they elicit, you may want to actually "hunt for any research on this topic" if you are trying to provide a fact-based counterpoint, which I am always happy to hear.