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The accomplished actor looks ageless and flawless, but is that really what aging looks like?

The Golden Globes took place last night and while I didn’t watch the show, I got caught up in some of the commentary on Twitter about how great some of the older women looked. Notably, Jane Fonda, who won the Cecil B. DeMille Award and whose beauty at age 83 is undeniable.

Then I came upon this tweet, about Fonda looking “like this at 83”:

I have been a fan of Fonda for her activism and acting, and you bet she looks beautiful at 83. That said, it’s a very narrow version of beauty. Her skin looks flawless —…


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Women who “marry up,” even if they’re wealthy in their own right, are always suspect

Salma Hayek and her husband, François-Henri Pinault, just celebrated their 15th wedding anniversary —a pretty long marriage for any couple, but particularly notable in Hollywood terms.

And yet recently, their marriage has again become suspect because Pinault — chief executive officer of Kering and president of Groupe Artémis — is worth about $7 billion and Hayek is only worth some $200 million, and therefore she must have married him for him money.

As if a woman worth $200 million would actually need to marry someone for money.

It came up on a recent episode of the Armchair Expert podcast, when…


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Romantic love is great, but non-romantic love is often much more enduring and equal

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and while I love romantic love, I don’t like the day dedicated to it.

There was a time when I looked forward to Valentine’s Day. It was when I was in PS 79 elementary school in New York City. Like many young girls, I was brought up to expect romantic love, maybe in the form of a prince. So a day dedicated to love? Bring it. Plus, there was candy involved.

If I was lucky, I got a special card from a special someone. Sometimes there were several special cards from several special someones. Sometimes…


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J.Lo insists she hasn’t had work done, but is it ‘wrong’ if women do to fit into the narrow societal version of beauty?

While promoting her just-released skincare line, JLo Beauty, Jennifer Lopez found herself on the defensive when an Instagram follower accused her of using Botox. Nope, she wrote. No Botox, no injectables, no surgery, just “#beautyfromtheinsideout” and “#beautyhasnoexpirationdate.

Clearly, not every woman looks like Lopez or can look like her; at 51, the singer and actress is not what many would consider “young” but fits into a narrow version of what society sees as a beautiful and desirable woman. Not just for her seemingly wrinkle-free face, but also for her flawless body. Remember her performance at the 2020 Super Bowl halftime…


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It’s less about women who actually own a cat and more about shaming any woman who challenges traditional gendered roles

One of the films getting buzz in this year’s Sundance Film Festival is Manuel Crosby and Darren Knapp’s first feature, “First Date,” a teen comedy drama about a date gone awry and that includes cops, a gang and a vengeful cat lady.

Even in 2021, the concept of a “cat lady” is as strong as ever.

Who is a cat lady? Go back to 2009 when 47-year-old Scottish singer Susan Boyle appeared on Britain’s Got Talent. The audiences and judges sniggered at the somewhat dowdy-looking middle-aged Boyle, who confessed she had never been kissed. But when she sang the first…


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Vice President Kamala Harris with her husband, Doug Emhoff, and children Cole and Ella Emhoff. (Kamala Harris/Instagram)

Vice President Kamala Harris, her husband and his former wife all get along, and their children are the ones who are benefiting

If you watched the inauguration of President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris last week, you saw them surrounded by their extended families, including Cole and Ella Emhoff, Second Gentleman Doug Emhoff’s children and Harris’ stepkids, who call Harris “Momala.”

What you may not have seen is Emhoff’s former wife of 16 years, and Cole and Ella’s mother, Kerstin Emhoff. She was there, however, posting photos of herself on the steps of the Capitol and sitting a few rows behind her children at the swearing-in.

Kerstin, who has been described by Harris as a "dear friend,” had volunteered to…


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The new vice president, at age 56, is hardly invisible or irrelevant

Kamala Harris is about to make history on Jan. 20, when she will be sworn in as vice president of the United States — the first woman, a Black woman, the first Asian American, the daughter of immigrants. What few if any will be talking about at the inauguration or likely the rest of her term is her age. Harris is 56, an age when women supposedly become invisible and irrelevant (women actually become invisible much earlier than that, according to researchers).

Clearly, Harris is not invisible and irrelevant.

Throughout her run for Democratic president and then as president-elect Joe…


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While there’s much to be said about having a romantic partner, we all need more than one person to care about us and care for

How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love, the first book by behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury, will be published early in the month many of us associate with love — February.

I met Logan a few years ago, when she and her friend Hannah Hughes led a workshop using design concepts to create a more conscious way of coupling. …


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In her new film, Emma Thompson plays a widow who hires a younger sex worker for her own pleasure — it’s not a bad idea

In her next film, Good Luck To You, Leo Grande, which begins filming this year, Emma Thompson plays a 55-year-old sexually inexperienced widow who hires a sex worker in his early 20s. As she describes her character, Nancy Stokes is looking for adventure, connection and sex. Not just any sex — really good sex. For the first time ever.

“Whilst her husband Robert provided a home, a family, something resembling a life, good sex was never on offer. But he’s gone now, and Nancy has a plan. As she says, ‘there are nuns with more sexual experience than me’. So…


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All too often women stop doing things they enjoy because it’s perceived as diverting too much attention from their husband

George Clooney has a new movie out, The Midnight Sky, and so of course the beloved actor is all over the media promoting it in this highly unusual pandemic year.

While he was filming it, his wife, human rights attorney Amal Clooney, was months into co-writing her 1,000-page book, The Right to a Fair Trial in International Law, an important legal book that she hopes will be used to protect people from abuses of power as the world becomes more authoritarian.

As luck would have it, her book launch (virtual, of course) happened around the same time as his film…

Vicki Larson

Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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