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Focus on what they’ve accomplished, not just longevity

The divorce announcement by Bill and Melinda Gates this week sent ripples through the world, not only concerning what it might mean to their charitable foundation, but also the broader picture — if two billionaires who could easily afford access to the very best marital counselors, couples retreats and life coaches couldn’t make it, well, who can?

Money may make life easier but there’s no guarantee it will keep a marriage intact. …


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Women are having babies in their 40s, 50s and even older, refusing to be defined by a narrow window of fertility

New Hampshire teacher Barbara Higgins gave birth to a son after three hours of labor in March.

Three hours of labor is truly impressive (and enviable!), but that’s not what makes her birth unique. Higgins is 57 years old.

She joins a rising number of women who are having children later in life, women like actors Halle Berry, at 47; Laura Linney, at 49, and Kelly Preston at 48.

The number of women in their 40s having babies has been rising almost continuously since 1985. There were 959 births to women aged 50 and over in 2018, up from 840…


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‘Advanced style’ and nudism couldn’t be more different, but they both help women embrace and accept their aging bodies

“What could older female consumers possibly teach us about being stylish?”

That’s what Ela Veresiu, an associate professor of marketing, wanted to know. So she delved into the world of the “advanced style” movement, in which older women deconstruct and defy gendered and ageist fashion and beauty standards as influencers on Instagram.

Miniskirts? Bold colors? Tight clothes? Fishnets? Stilettos? Flashy jewelry? Who says women can’t wear things like that after a certain age? …


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Befriending older women can go a long way toward busting ageist beliefs and lessen anxieties about aging as a woman

In her new book Huddle: How Women Unlock Their Collective Power, exiting CNN anchor Brooke Baldwin emphasizes the importance of having a “huddle” — women you can lean on for support, inspiration and strength, and who can lean on you for the same.

One of her tips is to welcome women in your huddle who are different than you are:

“I’ll never forget the sage advice from rapper and activist Killer Mike when I was first interviewing him in the wake of Ferguson: “Make sure you have plenty of friends who don’t look like you.” It is so important to…


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Our emotional relationship to money drives how we use it and how we feel about ourselves

The Amazon delivery trucks have been stopping on my block several times a day this past year. Not to my house, though. My needs are so little right now, during the pandemic. But as I look in my closet and drawers, I realize I have so much stuff — more than I could ever wear.

Why?

“The best place to start any money conversation is to admit that money is about much more than money,” writes Anna Sale, host of the podcast Death, Sex & Money, in her new book, Let’s Talk About Hard Things.

I had never thought of…


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Madonna and Halle Berry are just the latest to get unfairly criticized for posting half-naked photos of their aging bodies

Madonna and Halle Berry have caused a kerfuffle.

The 62-year-old Madonna posted a few selfies on Instagram in a barely there leather bra, lacy lingerie and a hat a few days ago. Berry, 53, did similarly, posting a photo of herself on Twitter in her underwear, a kick-ass pair of boots and a hat. (What’s with the hats, gals?)

So of course there were some negative comments about the inappropriateness of women like them baring so much skin because, you know, age — ew.

Similar comments were made when model Paulina Porizkova, 55, posted a nude photo of herself in…


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Throughout history, charm, intelligence, curiosity and wit got women what they wanted, more than their youth or beauty

In a recent essay, freelance writer Rebecca Knight wrestles with a contradiction. While she’s raising her daughters to be feminists like she is, she also finds herself agonizing over her fading looks at midlife. Can she really call herself a feminist if she’s a sell-out, she wonders, as her 12-year-old watches her follow her nightly beauty regimen:

“It’s too late for me. At this point, I’ve already fallen prey to the immense pressure that society puts on women to try to look a certain way. I may be a liberated, modern woman, but I am also more than a little…


The 63-year-old actor wants to be revered as an ‘elderess’

Actor and Goop founder Gwyneth Paltrow thinks we’re getting better at tackling ageism. While promoting a new face filler, the 48-year-old says she sees that happening with her 16-year-old daughter, Apple, and her Gen Z peers.

As she tells Bazaar:

“The younger generation is embracing and deifying women like Jane Fonda and Frances McDormand. They just love cool women, whether they’re older or different to them. They’re so much less judgmental about other women of all shapes and sizes. I observe that with my daughter. They look at the whole woman, instead of some super-airbrushed, FaceTuned Instagram photo. …


Research indicates May-December relationships are more likely to break up, and women have less sexual and life satisfaction

Singer and actor Katharine McPhee and her husband of nearly two years, multi-Grammy-winning musician and producer David Foster, recently celebrated the birth of their first child together.

McPhee is 36; Foster is 71.

Shortly after they wed, Foster declared, “No one gives a shit” about their large age difference and McPhee has long made light of it. But recently, she felt a need to address it:

“It took me awhile to kind of come around to really want to have a real serious relationship because I was very concerned with what people would think, and also I just wasn’t there…


The accomplished actor looks ageless and flawless, but is that really what aging looks like?

The Golden Globes took place last night and while I didn’t watch the show, I got caught up in some of the commentary on Twitter about how great some of the older women looked. Notably, Jane Fonda, who won the Cecil B. DeMille Award and whose beauty at age 83 is undeniable.

Then I came upon this tweet, about Fonda looking “like this at 83”:

I have been a fan of Fonda for her activism and acting, and you bet she looks beautiful at 83. That said, it’s a very narrow version of beauty. Her skin looks flawless —…

Vicki Larson

Award-winning journalist, coauthor of “The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels,” mom, changing the narrative about older women

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