7 Questions Engaged Couples Should Talk About Right Now

You have a unique relationship — why have the same marriage everyone else has?

You have the ring you wanted, the partner you wanted and you’re planning for the future you wanted. The two of you have a unique relationship. So why would you want to have the same marriage everyone else has? You don’t want to just create a life with your partner; you want to create a specific kind of life. The only way to get that is to have some hard conversations with yourself and your partner so you can couple consciously. Here are 7 questions to consider.

1. Why are we marrying?

If you’re like many couples, you may have been living together for a while. You could have continued on that way without the stress and expense of planning a wedding. Gone are the days when people had to marry to have kids, a live-in partner, financial security or sex. So you need to ask, “Why are we marrying?” Are you feeling pressured by your family or your biological clock? Are all your friends marrying and moving on with their lives? Do you just want to make a formal statement of your commitment? You might be surprised by how much clarity your answers will bring, especially since marriage has historically been better for men than women.